How to make your partner listen?

Women realize how difficult it is for men to understand them. They talk to them and they stare at them as if they were speaking a foreign language. At best, they will respond by answering off-topic or in a way that will upset them. This is how an argument begins, which spoils the mood for the next few hours or even days. To avoid this, sometimes it is enough to follow a few simple tips that will make it easier for a man to understand your language.

1. Think about what you want to tell him. If you want to discuss a specific topic with him, be prepared for it. Come up with an example solution to the problem you are approaching him with. It will be easier for him to refer to specifics and work on examples rather than considering abstract concepts such as “you don’t have time for me.”
2. Don’t interrupt him. Don’t ask him to stop what he’s doing so you can talk to him. The only thing he will wait for is for you to finish speaking so he can get back to what he is doing. He won’t even pay attention to you, because he’s probably wondering which door he needs to open to get to the next level of the Play Station game.
3. Don’t shout at him. Don’t start a conversation by shouting. He will most likely think that you are going to complain about something he should have done or didn’t do, which will immediately make him feel negative about the conversation. Further discussion will no longer make sense.
4. Approach him with a smile. Make him part of your conversation and, what’s more, make him like it. So smile and touch him tenderly. Sit on the couch and tell him that you miss his warmth and would like to talk to him for a while.
5. Ask him if he understood. When you notice that he is listening carefully to you, it is worth stopping from time to time and asking if he understands what you are saying. If it turns out not to be the case, try explaining it again. Remember that he is a man and his friends don’t talk the way women do.

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6. Encourage him to ask questions. Don’t predict what he might be thinking. Don’t plan your next line until you hear his answer. Take everything he says into consideration for the rest of the discussion. He will probably appreciate your efforts to find out his opinion.
7. Tell him what you want to hear. Sometimes men don’t understand what is expected of them and it needs to be told to them directly. So if a man comments, “Wow, your butt looks pretty big in that dress,” and it’s meant as a compliment, point out that he could have said it in a more subtle way, like, “You really look stunning in that dress.”
8. Tell him what you expect from a relationship. Just like you tell him what you want to hear from him, tell him what you want from him in a relationship. Do you like poetry? Ask him for a poem. It would probably be more romantic if he came up with this idea himself, but still, when choosing a poem, he will only think about you, and that is very romantic.
9. Don’t start a discussion when he’s upset about something. The distressed man is on another planet and is unable to engage in any discussion. Wait until he gets over it and only then try to start a conversation.
10. Praise him. The more you praise him, the more he will try to understand you. You will quickly notice that his eyes light up whenever you want to talk about something. He’ll even be willing to interrupt your video game so you can say something.

Remember: commitment and patience will help you understand a man. However, these tricks won’t bring results overnight. Using them once will probably not bring the expected results, and expecting your partner to always listen to you is illusory. Only continuous practice of these activities will lead to the previously set goal.