What do dissatisfied spouses complain about most often?

When entering into marriage, everything is bathed in sunshine and promises of a union that will last a lifetime. But the reality of everyday life is different, often rich in problems of all kinds. Among them you can also find things that people complain about all the time. What bothers men most about their women?

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“I can’t even count exactly how many unhappy husbands I’ve seen in my office over the last ten years or so. They come with different problems – from infidelity to problems with in-laws. Despite the diversity, there are problems that men complain about over and over again, so it is appropriate to draw attention to them. In case of long-term carelessness, there is a risk that many such problems will introduce insurmountable obstacles to the marriage. Target them before they do irreversible damage,” Debra Macleod, author of articles and books on relationships, coach and marriage mediator, advises women.

She is grumpy all the time

One of the frequent complaints that men find very annoying is the moodiness or grumpiness of women. Especially when talking to each other, when their words are often full of negativity, contempt or criticism. Then, if by any chance a man tries to raise a complaint between the parties to the marriage, the woman usually reacts by getting angry and throwing the blame on his head instead of listening to him.

 

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It infects and organizes

When a man happens to be lucky enough to have a free moment, a woman suddenly appears and tells, or in the worst case, orders, that something needs to be done around the house or perhaps in the garden. If the man is out with his friends, for example, the woman constantly writes or calls him and asks when he will be home, etc.

Basically, in such a union, the woman functions as a kind of micro-manager controlling and directing everything and everyone. This is also one of the things that can do a lot of damage in a marriage from the point of view of men, says Macleodová for Yourtango.

It reflects all the efforts of a man

“If a man happens to look flirtatiously at his wife, she just rolls her eyes. When he reaches for her in bed, trying to have a nice moment, she turns her back on him. If by chance he agrees to sex, he just lies there and waits for everything to be over,” the coach describes another thing that men often complain about.

 

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He stops taking care of himself

Pleasant appearance and neatness are not the main component of a relationship, but no one should give up on them even after years of relationship. This is even more true for women. “She has stopped taking care of herself, she only wears ragged tracksuits or she has generally lost the energy to take care of herself”, although this is not the main complaint, but it has an effect on the fact that sooner or later women distance themselves from their husbands emotionally and physically. And that’s already something that men complain about, says the coach.

Mother’s role before partnership

The parental role is equally important for men and women, but its implementation is often very different between the sexes. While men still see their partner and lover in the mother of their child, women often stylize themselves only in the role of mother who prioritizes children over husband and relationship.

“Child care is well-deserved and necessary, just remember that a child-centered marriage ceases to feel like a marriage – it’s more like a kindergarten,” says Debra Macleod.

And he also adds that this is often associated with situations where mothers style themselves as the main and only leader of the family clan. When men do something in parenting that they don’t agree with, they make it clear to him. Unfortunately, they not only deprive their own children of paternal care and discipline, they also drive a wedge into their own relationship with their husband.

 

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She can’t be grateful

Regardless of how much time the husband has spent completing a task at home, or how much overtime he has spent at work trying to earn more money, nothing is appreciated and appreciated enough. No (not even an occasional) show of appreciation, everything is taken for granted.

He has no hobbies of his own

Strange as it may seem, men also mind when a woman doesn’t have her own interests and hobbies to spend her free time on. It is also because such an absence makes it predictable and unremarkable in terms of mutual communication. It simply has nothing to enrich or enliven it.